So we are 5 weeks in. CPS came out today and the visit went really well. The frustrating thing is that we still have no new news about this "other family" that Tiny baby "might" be moving to. I do find it strange that five weeks have passed and that we have not been contacted for them to even meet him. There must be something that they are unsure of. Please pray that we would get information regarding their intentions and desires quickly.
If they desire to have Tiny Baby placed with them it would be in his best interest to start forming a bond with them. Right now they are simply names in a file. If they decide that they are unable to or do not desire to take him then we are very open to the boys (they adopted his brother) having a relationship and would do everything to make sure that happens. Again, this would depend on their desires.
Our CPS CW told me today that there will not be any family visits right now as no one has come forward asking to see him and his parents are unable to see him right now.
Other than the big unknown, things are going amazing. He is thriving. Eating and sleeping well. We changed his formula and he seems to be more comfortable now too. Routines are slowly getting established and our days are starting to look normal as a family of 4. Praying God's will over Tiny Baby and his future as we love on him today.
Tuesday, November 29, 2011
Wednesday, November 2, 2011
Fostering is Water
My husband, M, had quite the revelation this weekend. He was talking with a pastor friend about our newest foster baby. His friend commented on just how hard parenting can be. But M had to interject that yes, parenting is hard, but fostering is harder.
You see when you are simply parenting, whether it be your bio or adopted children, you are investing in your future with them. Granted, none of us are guaranteed tomorrow, but you understand what I mean. When you parent a foster child you are investing in his or her future and the future of their bio family. There is no personal gain on the investment. Witnessing the fruits of your labor and their future impact are gone the moment that child leaves your home.
Don't get me wrong, the joy of the moments and the love you shared will stay with you forever. But more likely than not, this little person that you loved, sacrificed for, lost sleep over, and helped wounds heal, will take these gifts with them and you will not get to see them bloom, someone else will. You will not be part of any "remember when" moments like the ones I had with my family on a recent visit. You know, when you sit around your childhood home and reminisce about a million little things, laughing till your sides hurt, soaking up the love of a shared past.
So if you love parenting because you get to see the fruits of your labor brought forth in your children, then fostering may not be for you. If you can invest all and not ever expect anything in return (long term), then what are you waiting for?
Fostering is the water. 1 Corinthians 3:6-7 says "I planted the seed, Apollos watered it, but God has been making it grow. So neither the one who plants nor the one who waters is anything, but only God, who makes things grow." Be the water for some children and know that God will carry forth the work, to bless them and those that love them.
You see when you are simply parenting, whether it be your bio or adopted children, you are investing in your future with them. Granted, none of us are guaranteed tomorrow, but you understand what I mean. When you parent a foster child you are investing in his or her future and the future of their bio family. There is no personal gain on the investment. Witnessing the fruits of your labor and their future impact are gone the moment that child leaves your home.
Don't get me wrong, the joy of the moments and the love you shared will stay with you forever. But more likely than not, this little person that you loved, sacrificed for, lost sleep over, and helped wounds heal, will take these gifts with them and you will not get to see them bloom, someone else will. You will not be part of any "remember when" moments like the ones I had with my family on a recent visit. You know, when you sit around your childhood home and reminisce about a million little things, laughing till your sides hurt, soaking up the love of a shared past.
So if you love parenting because you get to see the fruits of your labor brought forth in your children, then fostering may not be for you. If you can invest all and not ever expect anything in return (long term), then what are you waiting for?
Fostering is the water. 1 Corinthians 3:6-7 says "I planted the seed, Apollos watered it, but God has been making it grow. So neither the one who plants nor the one who waters is anything, but only God, who makes things grow." Be the water for some children and know that God will carry forth the work, to bless them and those that love them.
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